Ruth asks…
Is it poor show to give you estranged spouse a Christmas Gift?
Does it send out the wrong message?
I don’t want him back I just want to be friends for the sake of our daughter.
XmasShopper answers:
I would say just a card with a note that you want to be friends for the sake of your daughter even if the two of you can not make it as a couple. That being said, if you are not together because he was abusive in some way, it may be better to not give him anything and hope he goes away so that he is not a role model for your daughter. If he was abusive, she may grow up to find someone to abuse her in her own life because she thinks that is normal, for example.
Charles asks…
would liposuction by a good christmas gift for overweight spouse?
XmasShopper answers:
Yes, as long as they want to lose weight, and they’re really overweight, otherwise they’ll think you’re offending them. Make sure you put it over nicely so they realise you care for them and aren’t getting at them about the weight. You’ll have to remember that liposuction comes with a risk though so buy them nice clothes for when they’re over the whole thing [evening dress for a girl, suit for a guy then you can take them out for a meal once they've lost enough to fit] that way the surgery won’t be the only present, they’ll probably be less offended [if they were] and they’d have something to aim towards x
Edit:
But by the look of your name not sure if you’re being serious…?
George asks…
What’s the silliest/dumbest/most disappointing Christmas gift your spouse has ever gotten you?
When we were first married, there was a huge present under the tree. She said, “You’re going to LOVE it!” and she meant it. For weeks she built it up. The thing was the size of a stereo so I figured….
Well, Christmas comes, I open it up and see a pillow inside. I move the pillow aside thinking that it is protecting something. No, that was the gift. “Isn’t it great! And it is so comfortable.” Now, I admit, it was a sweet thought and maybe the problem was mine, but I still give her a hard time about it.
Then there was the econo-pack of BVD’s. “Well, you needed them anyway.” She had a point, but still….
@Margie: You’ve got to be careful saying things like that to guys. My wife said that this year “We’re not getting anything for each other right?” I’m old and experienced enough to know that that’s a test. Ain’t no way I’m getting her ‘nothing’.
@Sasha: He could have put HIS name on it. That’s what I’d have done. ;o)
XmasShopper answers:
People need to realize there is a different between a gift and a present.
A gift is something that you give someone that they want.
A present is something you present to someone because you want them to have it.
One year my husband gave me the exact same bathrobe he bought his mother!!! I wrapped it up and donated it to the GoodWill. He never even noticed that I never wore it.
I soon realized that his presents sucked and were given to me without thought. Just to have something to present to me was his ‘gift’. He would just go and buy anything and include the receipt within the gift for me to return it and get something I liked better instead.
My husband always gave me presents, no gifts. One year he gave me a rectangular shaped casserole dish with a wicker basket that it fit into and it had no lid. He was so excited over the thought of what I was going to cook for him in that Pyrex dish that he just about was drooling. Never mind that I already had every size casserole dish known to man kind.
Linda asks…
How much does everyone spend on their spouse for Christmas?
I was thinking about this and I don’t know how much is a reasonable amount to spend on my husband for Christmas. Just wanting to see the variation and what everyone else would consider reasonable to spend on their significant other on Christmas gifts.
XmasShopper answers:
Usually spend about £50 as we’ve got a large family and can’t really justify spending a huge amount on each other. This year though i am pushing the boat out and have booked a romantic weekend away for us, but not till after christmas.
Have a fab christmas x
James asks…
How much are you going to spend on Christmas gifts for your spouse?
I’m shooting for a max. of maybe $30-$40. A new kitchen mixer and maybe a few pairs of plastic earrings from Wal-Mart. To show my appreciation for all the effort she has put into our relationship this year. We’ve been so intimate, I just feel so thankful for her and for my life.
weisenheimer… i’m busting over laughing
XmasShopper answers:
I wasn’t thinking of going that high. I mean, if the gift is commensurate with the effort put in by her?….I was thinking more of a couple of candy canes that I ripped off a tree at the bank.
William asks…
What are you planning to gift your spouse this Christmas or new year”s eve ?
its christmas and end of the year. thats for sure your spouse is expecting from you something or a big surprise from you. well that could be anything like a ring, some resolution, a holiday what so ever it may be just let everybody know what special your are going to do to make your spouse happy and show your true love from him/her……….
merry christmas and a very happy new year to all
XmasShopper answers:
Im not sure what the question is but i would suprise my spouse with a special dinner.
Susan asks…
Do you think it is proper to give your x-spouse a Christmas and Birthday gift.?
My best girlfriends say no, I should not be giving him a gift. We are on good terms and I do not want to get back together I am happily remarried. We are good terms. I see nothing wrong with it and rather think it is a nice thing to do, since we were married for 20 years and have two grown children.
XmasShopper answers:
I don’t feel it’s wrong, but you would need to consider how your husband feels about it. Obviously you have a long history with your X and it’s good you are on good terms both for your current marriage and especially for the children. If your husband is privy and is totally okay with it, then great.
Lizzie asks…
How much is one generally expected to pay for a Christmas gift?
For spouse?
For their family (mom/dad/siblings/nieces/nephews/etc)?
Very close friend?
Friend (but not as close)?
Colleague?
Etc?
XmasShopper answers:
1. Never more than you can afford.
2. Depending on their financial situation too. In other words, if they are unable to spend alot, don’t make them feel bad for spending alot more on them than they are able…unless you know that they wouldn’t feel guilty, but would be grateful…
3. Its such a personal thing and it depends on your relationship to the person.
Personally, I don’t buy anything anymore on credit. I spend probably $150-200 for my son, $75-100 for each parent and sibling (most years we draw names and don’t buy for everyone) and $100 for my niece and nephew. Best friends $25-50, Colleague: $10-15…but i don’t hold to that…depending on circumstances.
Sandra asks…
Christmas gift exchange between spouses.?
Does your husband actually get you a gift or do you buy it for yourself? If you buy it yourself, are you okay with this or do you feel resentment towards your hubby?
XmasShopper answers:
We do not exchange any gifts. We agree on one big purchase, shop for it together and get it.
This year will probably be a TV and last year was a fridge.
It suits us. We buy for ourselves all year long. Christmas is that excuse to get a big treat and the rest is for the kids.
Powered by Yahoo! Answers
- Comments
- Facebook Comments